I've got my domain at namecheap, and they just forward all mail to two different pre-existing mailboxes. I configure my mailreader to use my address at my own domain when sending mail, and that works perfectly fine. Sure, headers may show them going through different mail servers, but nobody ever looks at that anymore.

Feels weird to ignore the largest players, e.g. Fastmail or Protonmail

Protonmail has worked great for me. Never had any issues and I like the inclusion of docs + sheets (even though their apps are ridiculously slow to load)

I use StartMail [1], which I believe ticks all of OP's boxes (I had similar boxes).

[1] https://www.startmail.com/

“Integration with Apple Mail” shy not just use iCloud with a custom domain?

The shared hosting package that I bought with my domain 20 years ago from a local hosting company comes with all of these, it cost I think €12/year originally. They got acquired some time ago by a large hosting company who charges more than €120/year for the same package. Then I switched to another local mail provider who charge €40/year (but with more storage). Aren't there many such providers?

Hi Jacob, Ado here, from FounderMail. I'm really glad you ended up on-boarding with us, and I wanted to reach out to thank you for the review and feedback.

The manual approve to outbound sending helped a lot to keep spammers out of the platform.

We ensure that domain exists and you're the owner, the website is legit, etc, making impossible for a bot to operate throughout our channel.

And is working, almost 4 weeks in, no complaints, less than 0.1 bounce rate.

You know, having an high reputation is vital to ensure the emails we send on behalf of our customers are reaching the inbox not the spam folder.

Said that, you continue to be right: it's annoying. We're working to reduce the pain autoapproving it for cases like your.

Thank you again (I hope you'll never find a reason to leave us! :)

Why not using iCloud custom domains? Is the simplest option if you want apple mail compatibility

MXRoute's lifetime plans (which they usually offer around black Friday) are a great option if you can get one. I paid $99 for mine five years ago. The service has only improved since then.

I added my custom domain to my provider email. Yes, those still exist in places

I can recommend Lark. Free tier does everything.

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