'My Husband Has No Friends'(www.thecut.com)
16 pointsby gmays3 hours ago8 comments
  • busssard2 hours ago
    As a man, with an introvert partner i can say this is just what life is. I have to also push her to come to social events with me, and even though it exhausts her, she feels better after.

    Putting this on gender is such a weird thing to do. It is just couples where one partner is intro- and the other extrovert.

    • Taikonerd2 hours ago
      > Putting this on gender is such a weird thing to do.

      Yes -- this phenomenon is somewhat gendered, but not overwhelmingly so. From the article's own statistic:

      A 2025 Pew Research Center study found that 54 percent of women say they turn to a friend for emotional support but only 38 percent of men say they do.

      So I think this is a problem that affects men somewhat more often than women, but happens plenty to both.

  • pennomi2 hours ago
    This article has some weird ideas that men should only hang “with the guys” and that women are social butterflies because they volunteer at their kids’ schools. This kind of blatant bias makes me skeptical about the entire premise of the article.
    • tmn2 hours ago
      It feels like an intentionally provocative/obtuse article meant to evoke an emotional reaction and drive engagement
  • sc68cal2 hours ago
    My pet theory is the elimination of the third place[1] where socialization can happen. Much of this is because the push for higher and higher levels of productivity and profit has made people more and more busy, which leaves less time and energy for these third spaces.

    [1]: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Third_place

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  • Taikonerd2 hours ago
    I feel like this article oscillates between sympathy for the lonely men, and victim-blaming that they're not trying hard enough, they're expecting their wife to manage their social life, etc.

    I will say that loneliness and depression go hand-in-hand. And if someone's husband is clinically depressed, that's going to look a lot like "they're not even trying."

  • ksudb2 hours ago
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