As far as I recall from my readings, daycare might be harmful for very small children (around age 2 and below), who are still very attached to their mothers. Above that, it is a matter of how large the group size is and how professional the daycare teachers are. Children below the age of 6 or so benefit from very small groups, because they don't yet have the social intelligence to navigate multi-person interactions. All children left on their own tend to develop anti-social behavioural patterns (such as taking toys from other by force, etc.), and a qualified daycare professional is supposed to watch for and weed out that kind of behaviour.
I agree with the author on the '2yo is too young' point. Obviously it depends on the children, we are all different, but I have noticed that even some early 3yo have trouble 'socializing' (or what count as socializing at this age, before ~4-5 yo, I.e stealing from each other, fighting over the stolen objects, then learning to share.).
I also agree that we don't know much, but: I would 100% advise every parent to attend least send their children to a youth camp during summer around 5-6yo (4 even if you think he is early in his development). If the counselor is great, you will get back children who have sung with other for a week (once two of my charges started harmonizing by themselves, without me prompting them to, this was great), learn enough knots to impress you (especially considering the focus and dexterity of a 4yo child), and tell you stories about building homes for forest fairies. And even if the counselor isn't _that_ great (I will stop giving myself flowers someday, today's not the day though), your child will socialise for a week, probably learn interesting stuff (and probably sing too, this is like counselor 101).
It's ok if they never get to that last step - they can always become CEOs or presidents.
And even if there's an impact one way or another, daycare has a much bigger role in helping keep women in the workforce. Many don't make it back in after a 5 year break to raise kids. Daycare helps stop them from falling off the career ladder.
Or course it helps the disadvantaged. Indeed if the neglect is bad enough, you may get superior parenting from the people at daycare (or indeed at school)!
Personally I had a nice time at daycare. There were toys there, and friends, and people who paid attention to you.
The anti-daycare camp claims they have evidence of a clear relationship between elevated cortisol levels and daycare visits - to which the author responds with a bunch of irrelevant, deflective points like "cortisol is an important part of the metabolism and it fluctuates all the time anyway and look, here is an incident of it being low in people who are stressed!" None of which addresses the concrete issue that the camp brought up.
That's "the climate has changed before" kind of arguing.
The irony is that he made a better argument at the end ("are they really stressed or just excited and in an unfamiliar environment, meeting lots of new people, etc etc") but only after doing all this handwaving before.
Being in an unfamiliar environment and meeting lots of new people is stressful. They can be genuinely stressed. But that's not necessarily a bad thing.
(Even then, I'd expect the follow-up discussion here to ask whether this is "good stress" or "bad stress" that is happening here, and whether it's only a situation at the beginning that kids quickly get used to or whether it's a permanent thing)
It’s 2026, the commons are flooded with bullshit because the goal is to grab attention, even if just for seconds, to be able to sell advertising.
The opening paragraph refers to a popular ragebaiter’s daughter as promoting this “debate”, which was enough to determine the linked “article” is probably an advertisement for her and/or her “debate” is manufactured.
I could not do what my kid's daycare teachers do every day, emotionally or physically. Without daycare, home life would be far more stressful for everyone. Plus the effects of me not being able to have a job anymore. In our house, without daycare we would be completely underwater. With daycare everyone is doing great.
Also they cookie banner is the most annoying bit of passive-aggressive UI I've seen in a long time, and now I feel stupid and dirty because I decided oh well I'll be nice this time and just Accept All. UGH. Curse me for my clemency.
When they get to later ages they start having an opinion, but until around 6’ish? I’m perfectly happy to believe it is not right for some, but I’m pretty much convinced it is good for the majority.
This link should be flagged and removed.
It's also not "both-sides-ism." The main anti-daycare fear mongering seems to center around the idea that it's bad for your children, but the opposite is suggested by the article.
Sorry you wasted minutes.
The fact that the very needy children benefit the most in no way implies that other children will be harmed. To make that statement without data is irresponsible for the authors, and I don’t see their data anywhere.
So this is essentially both-sides-ism. They present one reasonable if flawed idea and its totally unreasonable counterpart
Also the quoted influencers aren't even fringe. They're outright crackpot.
If we can’t take parenting advice from that family, who can we trust?