+ Address issues promptly but prepare: sleeping on it and putting your thoughts in writing can often make for a more productive conversation.
+ Listen and check understanding: ask clarifying questions and accurately summarize what you heard to confirm shared understanding.
+ Stay calm and respectful, and avoid defensive responses. Take a break to maintain equanimity.
+ Keep your statements brief and on point. Don’t interrupt, and don’t repeat yourself unless asked to clarify.
+ Don’t suggest solutions until you have a rough consensus on a problem or need.
+ Don’t select a solution until you have evaluated at least two alternatives to the status quo.
+ It’s OK to disagree on the situation or a course of action in any one conversation or sequence of conversations: commit to finding a workable solution.