There was a comic in Z magazine maybe 30 years ago where two women are asking why women who are working in childcare can’t afford to put the childcare and the punchline is ‘capitalism’.

I’d argue it a lack of capitalism. That is, Henry Ford could invest capital to build a factory in which workers were so productive they could afford a car which could change the world. On the other hand you can’t spend capital to make a woman who can care for 4 children today able to care for 40 children so people are always scratching their heads wondering why they can’t afford it.

Now your argument doesn’t apply to female-coded jobs (e.g. the child care worker is competent, their ‘lack of productivity’ is structural) and would be more interesting (whether or not it is true) reconfigured as “women bring something toxic to formerly male coded jobs” to which I would point the trope of the black woman politician who gives speeches to the effect that “we have good policies but we have a messaging problem” or a general idea that if we just picked the right words our perception of problems would change and then we wouldn’t have problems (it is equal opportunity though, I was as sick of Thomas Sowell and his ilk talking about “equality of opportunity vs equality of outcome” as I am of the liberal “equity vs equality” version of the same —- either way it is naive because you will never end people arguing over what they think is fair, at least in the conservative version you know what the two sides are whereas with the liberal version you might as well flip a coin)