Popularity doesn't mean much, if anything. Don't worry about 'internet points'. Just chat and exchange ideas.
(note: I've heard some folks use extensions or tamper monkey scripts to remove visibility of likes/upvotes/downvotes, so they aren't unduly influenced by 'internet points', enabling them to focus solely on discourse).
I feel ya on this one and have been in /new trying to help, but yours is a comment which also breaks one of the rules:
"Please don't fulminate. Please don't sneer, including at the rest of the community."
Might we ask where you got those expectations? HN doesn't do much marketing, to have mislead you there. "Move fast and break things" pretty much ended in the 2010's. We've always been far politer than the current X. And karma is heavily downplayed, both by HN's UI and by the culture here.