People usually assume their pain is personal — some mix of bad habits, lack of discipline, or being “wired wrong.”

But there’s another possibility: most of what feels like personal failure might just be the behavior of the model you’re running.

RCC (Recursive Collapse Constraints) points out a simple structural fact:

Any system that’s embedded in a larger container collapses after enough self-referencing steps, because it can’t see the boundaries shaping it.

Humans show the same failure modes: 1. plans fall apart around step 8–12 2. emotional loops repeat even after we think we’ve “learned the lesson” 3. identity drifts under reflection 4. long-term intentions collapse back into short-term reactions 5. relationship patterns reappear with different people

It looks personal, but it’s structural.

It doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means your internal model is hitting limits you didn’t know existed.

Guilt isn’t data. Shame isn’t data. Pain isn’t data.

They’re all boundary logs — signals from the edge of the model.

Once you see this, the question shifts from:

“Why am I like this?” to “What container am I embedded in, and what constraints come with it?”

Your pain isn’t your fault. It’s your model. And models can be examined, understood, and rewritten.